Thriving Relationships
GUIDANCE & HEALING FOR INDIVIDUALS OR COUPLES LOOKING TO TURN THEIR DISPAIR AROUND AND THRIVE IN THEIR RELATIONSHIP - EVEN IF YOU'VE TRIED THERAPY BEFORE!
Intimately Loved
The Essentials of Romance & Relationships
An interactive membership to equip you to love & connect with confidence.
The skills, tools, and support needed for deeper conversations and cherished connections.
To give you the confidence & know-how to deeply transform your relationship!
Time to be Intimately Loved...
An intimate membership group that takes you from stuck to intimately conversing, lonely to intimately loved.
Every month we dive deep into a topic that I have seen couples struggle with, and take those issues deeper. We uncover the issue, the underlying triggers and needs, and have questions to make it more personal for you.
The training is provided with additional support to make sure we embody what you learn, making it part of the home life and not just more on your to-do list.
Intimately Loved is designed to create big shifts with a deep impact on your life.
Join me in a private membership group where we can talk about the relationship safely, and I answer the questions on the group. I also give you journal prompts to take things deeper. Once a month I go live on the topic, and you get to ask questions and benefit from personalized support all the way through!
In Intimately Loved, through many recorded modules, an integrative workbook, monthly live Zoom calls, access to recordings of past Q&As, and more, you will get:
1. Crystal Clear on the big unseen hurdles and potholes so that you can break patterns that are sabotaging your relationship! This allows you to build the relationship of your dreams (and stop recreating the relationships of your parent/s)!;
2. The best tools in the trade for deep communication; emotional regulation for safe, de-escalated conversations; rebuilding trust (with yourselves too); and creating a deep intimacy.
3. Get the map of what it takes to build a solid, intimate & cherished relationship.
4. Practices to do to help you embody what you learn so that it happens more naturally and often at home too, not just while working on it in the course.
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“You know you're in love when you can't fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.”
Dr. Seuss
What would it feel like if …
You were racing home with excitement because you couldn’t wait to see your partner (like you used to)?
- You and your partner are talking in a way that is peaceful, respectful, kind, and leaves you both feeling heard;
- You both feel loved and valued and share your life with each other;
- You find it easier to talk again for hours like you used to;
- And the loneliness has dissolved.
This is ALL possible with my confidently equipped, and deeply cherished program: Intimately Loved.
I'd love to show you how..
As a licensed counselor, I had a play therapy practice working with children. And it is through that work that I uncovered that so many of the children's issues stemmed from the discord at home. Unfortunately, most parents don't realize the detrimental effect their marriage has on their children.
We are not taught how to build a solid relationship that handles life, children, work stressors, health issues, and unpredictable times (like pandemics or wars).
From working with children I subsequently evolved into a marriage counselor (in private practice since 2012) and now an international coach. I studied under some of the top names of Couples therapists in the world (including getting my Level 2 done under the Gottman institute). And I was greatly honored to have been invited to present at a couples therapists' conference in the USA in 2018.
My love of learning and absolute passion for helping families means I've trained and continue to train in all things Relationship to give you the best chance to turn your relationship into something you (and the kids) can feel proud of! This course is for parents, but not only for parents. You can do this to boost your relationship confidence pre-marriage, or maybe to help you feel more prepared going into your next marriage if you've been previously divorced, or it's even been used by single men and women who want to feel prepared and confident going into their relationship in the future. (Coaches and therapists have also done this course to help them help their clients better).
I am passionate about love, and building relationships with the best tools to give you a fighting chance to see what it takes and experience a deep intimate connection with the ones you love.
Happily ever after does not only belong to fairytales or the lucky few.
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INTRODUCING
The Confident Couples Ultimate Relationship Toolbox
For couples who want to master their relationship skills so that they too can enjoy thriving relationships with loving connections and feel deeply cherished.
This is a group mentorship program that you join and stay on for as long as you like, but it's designed to show you the exact steps to take to rebuild the foundations of your relationship and master communication for deep, healing conversations.
From your time there you will have intensive guidance. You’ll be receiving online training and group support so that you can…
- Have deeper conversations
- Know how to 'argue better'
- Feel deeply heard
- Feel cherished
- Feel seen and appreciated
- Feel like a team on the same side again.
The Intimately Loved membership group, gives you ALL the pieces of the puzzle you need to become confidently equipped and deeply connected in your relationship!
What’s different in this program from others?
- With over two decades of working with families (and add having my own family), I combine the strategies I learned that created the best results for my clients (and my own family)!
- I share tools that aren’t just theory but also practical! and we get to practice what you learn (because often things sound great in a book, but they’re harder than it looks and can be tricky to implement).
- I share the top tools I share with all my clients (including my private pay, VIP 1:1s). I know relationships aren’t a one size fits all, but these tools are helpful for all relationships (unless you’re in an abusive relationship or there is massive unrest and trust is deeply broken – in which case we would need to first prioritize safety).
- Once you implement Intimately Loved methods you will feel confidently equipped in your relationship (and if you are single – you can also do this course as it will help you feel prepared, confident, and more certain of yourself and what you want in your relationship in the future).
With ten-plus years in private practice and twenty-plus years working with families, I have extensive knowledge, love, wisdom, and expertise to guide you and your loved ones to a happily ever after.
I am passionate about learning so I combine some of the best strategies out there to give you the unique, quality support you need to turn things around and give you the ultimate relationship confidence.
Join us every week for 8 weeks as we cover the core concepts I have discovered that is necessary to create strong foundations and build a love that lasts not only through time but with a growth in connection too.
We will every week go LIVE and you will have access to the recordings afterward. You will also be able to post questions anonymously or live in the group. I will even do some hot-seat coaching for those who are up to it!
I feel so confident about our investment. It's been a gift to us! We look forward to our assigned time that we carved out every week to do this course together. We've even already noticed a difference in our daughter around the dinner table! Thank you!
A, USA
Life Changing!
My husband went into this skeptically, but after a few sessions, we realized why we were bumping heads and how to handle the situation better. Such small changes make such a big difference. Grateful for this course that has saved us many an argument. Thank you, Tehilla, for your guidance and your passion for helping others.
Katherine, SA
I enjoyed the course tremendously and have great respect for Tehilla's wisdom, insights, research and the compassion with which she helps us to come to grips with many challenges that we as couples are grappling with on a daily basis. Thank you - well worth it!
Caroline, Clinical Psychologist
SEE FOR YOURSELF HOW POWERFUL THIS PROGRAM IS….
HERE EXACTLY IS WHAT WE WILL COVER IN CONFIDENTLY EQUIPPED DEEPLY CHERISHED:
#MODULE 1: I = INNER HURTS, FEARS, DREAMS & PATTERNS
Learn the common reason for the frustrating tug of war in your conversations, where the more you push to talk the more your partner withdraws and the more they withdraw, the more you need to try to drag them out of that space until it ends in an explosion (externally or internally), or you both withdrawing and nothing getting resolved. Learn about Attachment injuries, and if you know about them already, this will give you new perspectives too.
You will learn:
- Why do you and your partner get stuck in this limbo?
- What your childhood has to do with your relationship now?
- What impact your limbo is having on your kids?
- What to do about it.
- What you may have thought is a personality trait that's actually a childhood injury.
- Insights that lead to more understanding and empathy for each other.
- Insights into how to stop parenting your partner (or being parented).
- This module alone is worth hundreds of dollars as the insights into your attachment injuries and childhood creates big shifts in how you see yourselves, each other, and even your parenting!
# MODULE 2: N = NEW NORMAL: ROLES & EXPECTATIONS FOR COUPLES TODAY
We have many expectations that seem logical and necessary of ourselves and each other but, if one thinks about it, weren’t really expressed explicitly to each other. This leads to looking down on the other (logic not being met, so we think the other isn’t as clever) and/or resentment.
You will learn:
- How to get clear on your expectations
- How to ask for what you want
- How to work together on sharing the physical and emotional load
- Steps to becoming a team
- Masculine & Feminine Energy
- Expectations Then & Now in Marriages, how to lead, be lead, and still be equal partners
# MODULE 3: T = TRUST, VALUES, SHAME, ANGER, AND OTHER CORE CONCEPTS TO DEEPER CONNECTIONS
Here we will explore the things often overlooked that have a big impact on the relationship and the arguments.
You will learn:
- The Anatomy of Trust
- Anger
- Love Defined
- Shame
- Inner Drives & Values
# MODULE 4: I = INSIDE SCOOP ON SEX & INTIMACY
When the connection and friendship fades, or children and roles take over (or both) our chemistry can lesson and sex can become a chore or even, non-existent.
You will learn:
- Different sex styles you and your partner might have
- Worksheets and questions to get more clear on your sexual turn-ons and turn-offs
- Understanding gender differences regarding needs being fulfilled by sex
# MODULE 5: MAPPING OUT YOUR HAPPILY EVER AFTER
Understand what it takes, step by step, to build a solid, happy home (and use this analogy to find your way back, any time you stray).
You will learn:
- World Renown Map of A Solid Relationship
- Core Points to Remember When rebuilding your 'home'
# MODULE 6: ALIGNED MINDSET & IDENTITY
Everything you try and implement that is new, is done with willpower and when you are tired or don’t keep practicing the new methods, they become redundant and you quickly fall back into old patterns. We all do. So working on mindset means we work on making these new methods part of your identity, and the natural response instead of the old way. This is the quickest way to make it more habitual and transformative as willpower is only as strong as you feel that given day.
You will learn:
- Visualisation techniques
- The language of your subconscious mind
- How to transform your identity
- Tools to help you regulate your nervous system
# MODULE 7: C = CORE COMMUNICATION TOOLS & SKILLS
Let me share with you the top tools I’ve discovered to turn difficult conversations and constant back and forth moaning and resentment into deeper, clarifying conversations.
You will learn:
- The art of non-violent conversations
- The needs behind your requests
- How to ask that the other hears
- Gender differences in conversations and arguments
- How to listen better
- Validation
MODULE 6: YO-YO OR SMOOTHER TRANSITIONS: REGULATING YOUR NERVOUS SYSTEM FOR SAFER CONVERSATIONS
Your body’s nervous system is designed to protect you from imminent danger, like lions and bears. But in today’s world where those threats aren’t as prominent, we are still in constant threat due to our bodies perceiving arguments with our spouse, stress about finances, etc also as life-threatening. When we’re in these states, connection, empathy and intimacy cannot be a priority. We need to create a sense of safety within our bodies first.
You will learn:
- Our survival responses
- Methods to support you and build your resiliency.
Simply put: WORTH IT!!!
Ricky, UAE
BUT THAT’S NOT ALL…
I want to give you every possible resource I can to ensure that you become CONFIDENT and INSPIRED through your learnings!
BONUS #1: The First 10 People To Sign Up
The first 10 people to join this brand new membership get to a link to have a private Telegram chat channel with me for 2 months where I will send answer questions there directly too.
BUT regardless if you're a first or not - every single question in the FB group will have my individual attention within 48-72 hours.
BONUS #2: A FREE QUIZ
This short quiz will show you your current personality type. During your progressions through the course, you will see where your perceived personality type comes from and how to break through your patterns to create new connections.
BONUS #2: POWERFUL BOUNDARIES VISUALIZATION
This powerful technique that can be used in various instances where you struggle with your boundaries can be used as needed and helps you create instant shifts.
BONUS #3: JOURNAL PROMPTS
You will receive a beautiful online workbook that you can print and take notes in as you go through the course. It will help you with easy access to visual reminders and written notes, to take the conversations and revelations easier.
BONUS #4: ADDITIONAL RECORDINGS (Value from $47 to $111 each)
I am a passionate student, and always busy learning new things for my couples. As I find new approaches or work on my course, I will keep adding additional materials to the course to add to your toolbox of relationship skills!
BONUS #5: PRIVATE FB GROUP
Only accessible to those who are doing this training, join the people who are also committed to love that ignites and romance that lasts.
This means you get additional support through the group, between the calls.
BONUS #5: RECOMMENDATIONS
I will share with you my FAVOURITE reading, podcast, and app recommendations to deepen your intimacy further beyond the course!
Here’s the thing... you are meant to have happiness too!
Are you feeling excited yet? Good! Because here’s the best thing… You can literally be handed the exact system to get this for you… And once you apply the knowledge, you could change your life entirely as it did for me and many others!
Some Feedback:
“I really think this is a wonderful tool for couples to use when navigating through their relationship. The explanations on the attachment grid were very thorough and easy to understand and relate to. The content really helped us to highlight areas that may need more work as well as highlight things that are going well (which is encouraging). I'm sure many couples will find it very useful. Thank you!”
Mrs. Jodie Z.
"Hi Tehilla. I just wanted to say we learned SO MUCH and understand each other better now! Your course, the videos are such a great idea. The explanations were SUPER and the way you did the examples are very clear and understandable. We enjoyed it thoroughly and can really say we understand each other, and why we reacted in certain ways better and so we can now handle things in a better way."
S. Lotter
"WWWOWOWWW. Mind blown! We could easily identify our ‘injury’ and we will keep this in mind going forward. How valuable to now understand why we act the way we do. THIS was AMAZING! Made me tear up! I will practice this!! Really enjoying this! Thanks!"
K. Coetzee
"You make one feel at home and at ease. You create a feeling of trust which helps to open and share.
You are understanding, non-judgmental, and approachable. I recommend you to couples or women that need to rediscover their inner worth and strength."
Ilse
SO… ARE YOU READY TO BE THE NEXT CONFIDENT COUPLE THAT NOT ONLY LOOKS HAPPY BUT FEELS DEEPLY DESIRED, CONFIDENT, AND HAPPY TOO?
I am also happy to work with you to tailor a package for your needs. Let's jump on a 15-minute call and see what you're needs are and how we can make it work. Year Packages are also available.
My process is the same - we start with an assessment to see the root cause of the distress, we work on the triggers and inner child healing for both of you and then we bring in world-class tools and practice making repairs and building the trust. So the packages are around how long we recon it will take.
My sessions are longer than typical sessions (90 minutes to 3 hours) so we can get further quicker. Traditional sessions don't typically give both partners a chance to feel heard, and we spend more time catching up and wrapping up than actual work - so the longer sessions save you time in the long run.
I have also found that my sessions tend to get done in 3 months which typically took 1-2 years to do!
If you want to heal and learn the tools, my 1:1 is best. But if you two feel you're pretty solid and want to learn the best tools in the trade to transform your relationship yourself - my courses are great options for you! The Ultimate Relationship Toolbox has over 55 recorded videos for you that I walk you through CORE concepts and tools to help you transform your relationship.
All my 1:1 packages (except the once-off full-day or MRI-only offers) include access to my course The Ultimate Relationship Toolbox (valued at $555).
Resentment is enticing because of how justified it can feel. But beware of the price - it costs too much!
Dear Tehilla,
You are so kind, thank you for your care.
I was exhausted on Thursday. It was another emotional marathon, but I couldn’t be happier about the process. So much is happening in parallel. It’s as though this enormous piece of machinery has been brought back to life, and all the cogs are turning at once, making different things happen, but they are all connected. It’s good – so good.
Very importantly, [hubby] and I are having such meaningful conversations; rediscovering each other. Also so good.
Kindly,
MB (90-Day Reset)
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