Thriving Relationships
GUIDANCE & HEALING FOR INDIVIDUALS OR COUPLES LOOKING TO TURN THEIR DISPAIR AROUND AND THRIVE IN THEIR RELATIONSHIP - EVEN IF YOU'VE TRIED THERAPY BEFORE!
Couples..
You are here because there is a slither (or more) of hope for more love, more joy, more connection in your relationship. Many couples hope that by improving their communication skills their relationship will be transformed. But there are many layers to relationships.
I have dedicated 20 years of working with families (and 10 years in my own marriage as a mother and wife) to really understanding how this life works and how relationships in the modern era can thrive!
The relationships we had in childhood directly impact the quality of relationships we have now. Heal the past to have freedom and joy in the present.
Services
My approach to relationships is understanding what got you two here (the filters you use from childhood, and past hurts) as well as the psychology behind the relationship dynamic. I help you 'decipher' your wife's language, fears and needs. I help you understand your husband's needs and language.
I walk you two through the difficult conversations that have led to much hurt and distrust - after we've worked through the triggers - thereby helping you two to really hear and understand each other.
We go through your unique needs, fears, and filters to help you each show up with more empathy and confidence. And able to talk again, like you used to.
Most of the women I work with desire to be more seen, feel emotionally heard and safe, and want to know they're cherished by their partner. And most of the husbands I work with desire to feel respected, not controlled. And wish their wives to be more happy and for them to have more fun.
There are always exceptions, but you are not alone. And I am here to guide you two find your joy again.
“We’ve gotten more in 30 minutes with you than we did from 4 months in therapy with our previous therapist.”
"MRI" - The Assessment
M - My
R - Relationship
I- Inventory
A 2-Day Assessment going deep into what has happened to your marriage so we can find the best way forward based on root causes and not just treat the symptoms.
This is available as a stand-alone offer - but is also part of all my other couples packages. It serves as the starting block of all our work together (except the one once off full day option).
Weekend Intensive
For those who wish to dedicate 2,5 days to really digging deep into the relatinship and lay a foundation of understanding, a weekend intensive can be a game changer.
Get done in a weekend what would typically take a month in traditional therapy.
This can also be done in the week. Book me out for 2,5 full days.
Relationship Reset
This is my most popular package. It is a 12-week all in commitment to turning your marriage around.
It focuses on, after we've assessed your situation through teh "MRI", to deactivation of relationship triggers, childhood healing, and much more.
Affair Discovery Support
I am so sorry for the pain that you are in.
This package is divided into two phases:
1. Immediate Crisis Support
You might not be sure if you want to stay, or can. But no decisios need to b made in the ciris phase. Our goal here is to work through the big triggers so that you can feel more safe with your decisions. As for the person who had the affair - in this stage we work on why they had the affair and the relationship crisis too.
2. Relationship Rebuilding
If after the first stage, you two decide to stay together, then here we will go into the assessment, and work on the relationship forward.
Premarital Bootcamp
My e-course, The Ultimate Relationship Toolbox is a wonderful wedding gift and is also perfect for premarital support for couples who want to enter the marriage feeling confidently equipped with the right tools to guide their marriage.
For couples who have been married before, or have had childhood adversities, and want to have more healing - I do rather recomend my 4-Week pre-marital Boootcamp.
Week Long Fly-In Safari / Golfer / Fishing / Shopping / Spa Private Intensive
This is the ultimate Platinum experience. Work on your marriage in a week-long intensive in one of the most luxurious settings. Fly in for a safari, or golfing on one of the worlds best courses in South Africa. Or maybe fly-fishing is more your thing? We have some luxurous fishing resorts. Maybe shopping? Come explore the Victoria & Alfred Waterfront in Cape Town for a world class shopping experience, while we work through your marriage. This is a premium experience with a $$$$ price tag. But it's worth every cent. A marital reset and tailored holiday in one!
Once off - Full Day
If you think your relationship is actually really good, there is just a specific issue you two are struggling with - then a once-off full day with me is suggested.
A full day booked out for you and (split into joint and individual sessions as needed, and breaks as needed) we can explore your situation and help you two work through it with more confidence and clarity.
Not sure if you want to stay in the marriage?
For those who aren't certain about their decision to stay in the marriage and needs some more clarity and insights I recommend this 4-Week Clarity Call.
It includes the MRI (Assessment) and some trigger work to give you the most clarity and confidence with your decision forward.
Please note: I never tell couples if they can make it or not. I just show you two how you got here, and what it will take to get out of this place, and with that insight you two decide the way forward.
I am also happy to work with you to tailor a package for your needs. Let's jump on a 15-minute call and see what you're needs are and how we can make it work. Year Packages are also available.
My process is the same - we start with an assessment to see the root cause of the distress, we work on the triggers and inner child healing for both of you and then we bring in world-class tools and practice making repairs and building the trust. So the packages are around how long we recon it will take.
My sessions are longer than typical sessions (90 minutes to 3 hours) so we can get further quicker. Traditional sessions don't typically give both partners a chance to feel heard, and we spend more time catching up and wrapping up than actual work - so the longer sessions save you time in the long run.
I have also found that my sessions tend to get done in 3 months which typically took 1-2 years to do!
If you want to heal and learn the tools, my 1:1 is best. But if you two feel you're pretty solid and want to learn the best tools in the trade to transform your relationship yourself - my courses are great options for you! The Ultimate Relationship Toolbox has over 55 recorded videos for you that I walk you through CORE concepts and tools to help you transform your relationship.
All my 1:1 packages (except the once-off full-day or MRI-only offers) include access to my course The Ultimate Relationship Toolbox (valued at $555).
Resentment is enticing because of how justified it can feel. But beware of the price - it costs too much!
Dear Tehilla,
You are so kind, thank you for your care.
I was exhausted on Thursday. It was another emotional marathon, but I couldn’t be happier about the process. So much is happening in parallel. It’s as though this enormous piece of machinery has been brought back to life, and all the cogs are turning at once, making different things happen, but they are all connected. It’s good – so good.
Very importantly, [hubby] and I are having such meaningful conversations; rediscovering each other. Also so good.
Kindly,
MB (90-Day Reset)
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Tehilla Luttig
Owner & Mentor
Registered (Licensed) Private
Pr No 0538396 Reg No PRC0016837
(Hons. BSocSci Psychology - UCT 2007)
Certified Life Coach
Licensed BWRT practioner
