When trust is broken, especially when broken by a loved one, it feels like one's whole world comes crumbling in and the pain is excruciating.

The walls of our proverbial house, are trust and commitment, so when trust is broken it feels like the whole house is ruined and all the dreams within crushed. It can feel so heavy and often hurt so much that one doesn't see a way out. Psychologists have discovered that many people suffer from PTSD symptoms when they discover their loved one has cheated on them. The pain is indescribable and it feels impossible to get out of there 'alive'. Most people believe that if their partner cheated they'd never be able to love and trust them again. And it is completely understandable. But... I've also seen the impossible happen. I've seen couples take this crumpled heap of shattered dreams and rebuild their marriage into something even stronger than it was before. It takes a lot of courage. It takes determination. It takes self-sacrifice (because no, it's not fair that you got hurt and now you need to work on the marriage too.. but that's what it takes). But, for what it's worth, I have seen it happen. And I'd love to help you if you feel you can give this another chance. No, it won't be what it was. But it can be something else. And even stronger.

Let me help you hold your big, heavy feelings while you learn the ways to rebuild your marriage, one with stronger foundations, where you're both building with the same picture for the future in mind. Whilst learning these ways we will also be working on atonement and rebuilding the dreams when you're ready.

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Need support on navigating the turmoil after the discovery of an affair?

Here is my free PDF.

Or do my online course, After The Affair, A guide to navigating the crisis. Click here! It's immediately available once purchased.

But if you are requiring my specialized support, to help you navigate the triggers, and contain the turmoil, do contact us to get started. Call now, or send us a message here.

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My Affair Discovery Recovery process is offered as an 4-8 week container first. This gives you two time to see what happened, what this all means, and if you want to move forward (either as a couple or with mentorship, etc). After that, if you decide you want to continue under my mentorship we carry on 12-weeks, and then continued support thereafter, but more spread out, is recommended. It's very similar to the containers found under my couples tab, except we do a lot more individual work too. The hurt partner needs help with the triggers and the unfaithful partner needs a deeper understanding of why they did it in order to really move on.

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This is intensive but it allows you two to work together and individually on the issues that lead you to the affair!

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It's an intricate process, stitching together the wounds and deciding what comes with and what needs to be cut out. It's perfectly okay to not be sure if you even want to save the relationship or to yo-yo between wanting to and not wanting to. The first part of our process is managing the crisis. No big decisions can be confidently made in a crisis. After we've navigated the crisis, and worked through what happened so you two have a better understanding of what got you here and what would be needed to go on - then can you feel better equipped to decide if you want to work on this further or not.

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You are also welcome to see me alone, to help you navigate the affair recovery process, if you wanted some specialized support.